One of the hardest parts about starting over after divorce is truly forgiving oneself. For all the time and energy wasted. For putting up with the bad behavior for far too long. For feeling stupid for being blind to so many things. For recognizing the ways we also contributed to this outcome. 

I believe the final stage in the grieving process, which can be quite long, is truly learning to let go and forgive ourselves. Honestly, no one is judging you and you’re not alone. Being stuck in bitterness and resentment with a victim mentality serves no purpose.

When can’t let go of what’s happened even though we know we want the best for the other person, we’ve got to dig deep to see where we’re feeling stuck in our lives. Releasing the shame & guilt that we feel like a failure. Learning to give ourselves the love we never received and worked hard to get.